Women just like you experience the pain and humiliation of being “left” or “dumped!" Are you puzzled after the man of your dreams falls madly in love with you and then suddenly abandons you and dumps the relationship? Was this real? Was he pretending? Did he feel he could not live up to your expectations? Did he feel you were too demanding? Did he feel suffocated and need "space?" Whatever. He's had enough, had his fill, is fed up or angry for reasons you may never know. He's dumped you and he's gone. Women, beware. Did you pay attention to the tell tale signs?

I was the woman of his dreams
and he the man of my dreams.

He said we would be together forever, when suddenly he:

Just walked out on me
Dumped me; did not return my calls or offer to work things out
Told me he felt suffocated and wanted his freedom and space
Left me with debt and unpaid bills
Left me with the kid(s) / child(ren)
Left me right before my birthday and the holidays
Left me hurting and in pain with no explanation
Said he loved me until I began to make demands
Left me because I was too needy and he could not meet my needs
Left me because he was terrified of commitment
Made everyone else a priority or things more important than me
Was totally self absorbed
Never made plans, reservations
Was passive aggressive; would cancel plans last minute
Was always putting me on hold and procrastinating
Was aloof emotionally; unavailable; in his own little world
Never participated in our activities
Acted as though I wasn't good enough for him
Would never do anything on time
Always put his family and kids first
Makes me feel like he was an everything and I was a nothing

We need to question these men who quickly abandon and leave their loved partner or just dump them as being immoral men with poor ethical standards.

Women are vulnerable and should not under any circumstances be treated with this kind of disrespect. Even the most mentally healthy woman finds it extremely hard to function normally when traumatized or abused in this way.

Time does heal and it is important to learn from experience and pay close attention to the early red flags. We need to be in the comfort zone with people who reassure us and make us feel confident that things will work out and that we will find a more suitable partner. The support group helps the healing and recovery process. Happiness is feeling strong inside and being able to trust one’s instincts from the beginning and not let these kinds of abusive relations drag on until the woman feels totally depleted. This positive outlook happens when we set real, achievable goals and pay attention to our instincts and our inner voice as pre-warning signs.

The Disappearing Male is beneficial to anyone struggling with the trauma of being abandoned, abused, dumped or traumatized and the challenges of communication when first recounting the signs of withdrawal from your partner. The Disappearing Male goes beyond “self help” books, as it is a more in-depth approach as it describes eight different kinds of disappearing men from a psychoanalytic/ psychodynamic perspective. It is intended for mental health professions as well as the general sector of the population. Dr. Lachkar specializes in individual and couple therapy, people with personality disorders mainly narcissistic and borderline. Her book can also be used for sales for human resources as well as a textbook for institutes, clinics and university courses.

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