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The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:
New Approaches to Marital Therapy, Second Edition,
Taylor and Francis, 2004
 Amazon.com
Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars
Book News, Inc.: Defining the narcissistic/borderline couple as
"individuals who, when they are together, form a shared couple myth that
gives rise to many collective fantasies," Lachkar explicates the network
that underlies this type of relationship and demonstrates how two
theoretical constructs - self psychology and object relations - can be
integrated to create an effective conjoint treatment of marital pathology.
Annotation copyright Book News, Inc. Portland, Or. - This text refers to
the hardcover edition.
James Grotstein, M.D., Professor of Psychiatry, UCLA
School of Medicine: "This new edition of Dr. Joan Lachkar's work highlights
her meticulous ongoing efforts to define a fascinating clinical entity
from different clinical and theoretical vantage points. This is a highly
well thought out word that is characterized by sound scholarship,
considerable clinical experience and innovativeness. It is to be
recommended to all mental health workers."
Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the
Emotional Abuse of High -Functioning Women, Jason Aronson (now
Roman and Littlefield Publishers), New York, 1998.
Psychodynamic Book News June 1997: "A Masterful Job
of Focusing on Emotional Abuse, Which is Generally Sidelined"
Vinala Pillari: Dr. Lachkar does a masterful job of focusing on
emotional abuse, which is generally sidelined when abuse is discussed. Her
classification of personalities in marriages in intriguing. Since this is a
book that integrates rich theory with vivid case example and also elaborates
treatment issues, every practitioner engaged in couple therapy should read
it."
Psychodynamic Book News June 1998: A Psychodynamic Approach to the
Dance between Abuser and the Abused. The subject is emotional abuse - the
ongoing process whereby one person attempts to destroy the will, needs,
desire or perceptions of another. The object is the well-educated,
high-functioning professional woman. Dr. Joan Lachkar examines the origins
and early warning signs of the psychological violation she describes as a
dance between abuser and the abused. She goes on to introduce typologies of
each (the narcissistic or g abuser, the unentitled self) and to explore the
bases for their collusive attachments. Addressing therapeutic functions
like empathy, containment, and counter-transference, and following a
couple's evolution from a state of fusion through transitional two-ness to
ongoing separateness, dependent and interdependent, Dr. Lachkar applies her
psychodynamic approach to treatment, informed by object relations and self
psychology, for technique and practical suggestions for the couple. |
The Narcissistic/Borderline
Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, Brunner / Mazel, New York, 1992
Sam Vaknin, author of books about narcissistic abuse: Lachkar's
grossly overlooked book is the best introduction I know of to abusive dyads
comprised of two people with personality disorders. Replete with case
studies and an impressive theoretical background (mainly, but not only,
Object Relations Theories) - the book is a vade mecum for both professionals
and sufferers.
Amazon.com Average Customer Rating: 5.0 out of 5 stars ... YOU
ALWAYS SCORE A FIVE! Professor Peter Berton
Samuel Eisenstein, M.D., Training Analyst and Supervisor, Southern
California Psychoanalytic Institute: "Dr. Lachkar succeeds in building a
unified theory of marital conflict that brings together the most recent
advances in psychoanalytic concepts - (She) offers an inside view of what
happens when two pathologies enter into a "dance" that fulfills each other's
unconscious and conscious needs. Marital conflict is discussed with emphasis
on both intrapsychic as well as the interpersonal experience. The book
offers valuable theoretical and clinical recommendation to both the beginner
and the experienced therapist who works with narcississtic / borderline
couples."
Robert Langs, M.D.: "Joan Lachkar joins an eminent group of
psychoanalysts who are broadening the scope of psychoanalysis by extending
its domain beyond the confines of the individual analytic patient to the
couple and family. Lachkar brings deep intelligence to her subject and
integrates the complex writings of psychoanalysts of very different
persuasions into a full and compelling picture of the pathology of a rather
common type of disruptive match-up and the issues such couples raise for
psychotherapists. She then offers many helpful ideas on how to best modify
the vicious circles in which these pairs typically find themselves. With
careful attention to the details of the therapeutic setting and c, Lachkar
provides the reader with very practical guidelines for the treatment of this
type of dysfunctional couple." - Robert Langs, M.D.
Reader Comment: I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and
was involved in a relationship with someone that had NPD (Narcissistic
Personality Disorder)but wasn't aware when I was IN the relationship. This
book helped me not only understand why he and I continued the "dance" of
what seemed like never ending turmoil, but also why we were attracted to one
another to begin with. Many things from our childhood determines who we
choose as romantic partners. If you or someone you know is BPD and involved
with an NPD, this book is a MUST read! Excellent! - This text refers to the
Hardcover edition
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